Attitude of Gratitude

It's a wonderful thing 

when someone you love,

believes in you.

Sorry for the serious lack of posts!  School is ruining my blogging life and Christmas has me on the go!  I can't wait to be finished school so I can spend more time to just focus on the Savior and the purpose of his life.  I so badly want to do a Christmas countdown where hubbins and I can do a daily activity together to grow closer together not that our relationship has been bad but I just am wanting to make some more family traditions together.  J has been sooo sooo soo patient and understanding with me and I appreciate it.  I have been having a hard time with the new that patches is not doing well.  It is funny how people can get so attached to animals and they really become like part of your family.  I am so impressed with J's growth in our marriage and relationship he is so willing to give and show love through understanding when I am having a hard time.  I think a lot has to do with his job and working as a psyche aide in the hospital, when you work with people who have special needs you learn to have a lot of patience and it is good practice before having children.

J is amazing more and more each day and has been going out of his ways to hold babies and practice calming them if they are crying.  He is so tender with the babies he holds and I know that he is going to be a good dad.  While I was sitting on the bus today thinking about everything that has been going on lately I realized how grateful I am for hard trials in my life.  They are not fun at the time or always welcome but the lessons I learn from them changes my whole entire life and that is what I am grateful for.  I am able to finally understand without judging, empathize and not just sympathize and that also has made a world of difference.

J and I struggled so much at the beginning of our marriage to understand each other on their level without jumping to conclusions of what would make the other feel better.  Many times we only would look at problems from our egocentric view and that caused a lot of hurt feelings on both sides.  As we have learned to grow and mature together in our relationship we find it easier each day to relate to one another on the level the other needs and not our own.  J has grown so much and I appreciate and admire the change.  We work so hard at our marriage and I love to finally see the benefits it reaps.  So here's to an amazing hubbins who has been so loving and supportive.  Miracles can and do happen when you take the time to believe in someone.  J and I have both grown from the positive encouragement we have chosen to given and that is a decision we need to make on a daily basis.  It is overlooking the things that drive you absolutely nuts and focusing what qualities you loved in the first place.